Low Self-Esteem or Lies from the Enemy?

“ . . . [He] does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” –John 8:44


Do you hear lies?

Do you believe the lies you hear?

Do you know how to tell the difference between truth and lies? 


All the way back to Eve in the Garden of Eden we see women believing Satan’s lies. I am guilty of falling prey to lies, especially when I was young, which caused fear and destruction in my life. John states clearly that Satan is the father of lies, and conversely Jesus says, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life,” (John 14:6). If we understand this simple difference, we don’t have to give way to Satan’s plan of death through believing lies.


In my teen years, I believed many lies about myself. Do any of these sound familiar to you? You are not valuable, not talented, not good enough or too sinful to be forgiven by Jesus, not smart, not attractive, not fun . . . The list goes on. 


Some would call that low self-esteem, but I would call it believing the lies of the enemy so we feel defeated and unable to accomplish what God created us to do. God’s plan is humbling, but not defeating or degrading. God’s plan requires us to trust his love for us and the truth he wants to teach us as we grow. 


In the midst of the lies, it was hard to determine what truth was, so I started to journal when I felt fearful or anxious. I wrote what fear I was experiencing and prayed to ask God if there was a lie leading to my fear. Eventually I was able to create two columns, one for lies and one for truth. I would find Scripture to counter the lies, and found that often the fears were based on the same few lies.


Satan isn’t creative or original—he just knows our weaknesses and manipulates those. The journal helped identify specifically what the lies were, and then I could focus on the truth instead.


John repeatedly reveals Jesus’ words, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will the know the truth, and the truth will set you free,” (John 8:31–32). And again when he says, “Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth,” (17:17). How exciting that we can be free from the lies by studying the Bible and loving Jesus!  Even though lies still come, I am all the more confident that God’s truth will combat them every time. 


What are the lies you hear? What truth does God want you to believe instead? If I hadn’t stopped giving into the defeating lies, by God’s grace, my life would look very different today. I’m so thankful that the truth sets us free!



In this clip, in a Q&A from Real Marriage sermon #2, "Friend with Benefits," Grace talks more about fear, writing down lies, and countering them with Scripture and truth.